I feel you, but let's be honest, there aren't really "true/traditional" command grabs in MK9 anyway -- they can all be blocked (much to the dismay of our lovely Sheeva).
The metagame is all that matters, anyway. If I have to use grappler shutdown/fear tactics to win with him, then he might as well be considered an unorthodox grappler, as far as I'm concerned.