First of all, both statements might be considered insensitive, but they are factually accurate so calling them "absolutely stupid" is a hyperbole.
Second of all, I dislike identify arguments. I only mention my past experiences to disprove white privilege. My family and I have moved on with our lives. Whatever happened happened decades ago, and some things that happened could have been a lot worse. I live my life in America as an American and I could not care less about the past.
You, on the other hand, only seem to be interested in complaining instead of offering solutions. Let me be clear and state that I am not comparing my family's past experiences to yours. I fully understand that the Black experience in America has been particularly agonizing, but people who think as you do are moving society backward instead of forward. These ideas of institutional racism, critical race theory, white privilege, etc. will unfortunately cause severe damage to minorities, especially children, for many years to come. If I am taught that all institutions persecute me, that white people have an inherent advantage over me because of the color of their skin, and that the American Dream is a facade, I am unlikely to succeed, and even if I succeed, I will become spiteful and condemn the system. LeBron James, who is one of the richest NBA players of all time, is the perfect example of someone who is inconceivably successful and influential yet constantly reminds everyone how racist America is. How any sensible human being can take anything he says seriously is beyond me. Sonic Fox, who is exceedingly successful by fighting game community standards, is another person who engages in identical propaganda.