Can You Guys Maybe Help?

[Might-Taro 19]

I understand, most of my threads have been wild but I assure you that this is important and support would be much appreciated.

So far my strong interests in life is Video Games, Meditating, Working out, eating nutrient dense whole foods, woman, being out in nature, and nutrition. here's the thing, I am very weak when it comes to math and most of my interests lead in to that required category. I am lost in life and 18 years old. For example if I wanted to be a nutritionist I would need to take some pretty difficult classes. I never really stepped outside of my box with people and even when I do...it makes me look bad and hard to speak up.

Me as a person and coming from experience, pretty unique from other people. Over most I have met, they are completely different than myself. For example their beliefs, what video games they like, what they eat, music tastes etc. Let's be real here, most people go with the most popular game called fortnite, call of duty, rap music,fast food, you name it. So that really made me lonely as a person, being very different and basically I hate to say it but... don't really wanna be here anymore. Life is very tough and finding purpose is probably never going to happen for me. I have a bad feeling that i'll end up with a job I dislike, make good money, and have so many issues going on internally. Like what? depression, Intrusive thoughts, Negative thoughts, homosexual OCD, and the list goes on. That's a lot to type but yeah I would really love it if you people can help me out, i'm hoping there's people who are like minded and went through the same or similar things and perhaps share what the resolution came out to be.

Kindest regards
Thank you.

 

[JBeezYBabY]

There's so many things going on this post, Uncle JBeezY will do his best. Listen, I know you're new and you're welcomed here, but sometimes...just like in life...its best to just chill and observe before making decisions. Maybe that's the role you need to take. You're super young, you have a lot to live for, and you have your whole life to figure out what you want to do. Don't rush it. Just do whatever makes you happy, but be patient. When the time comes, you will know.

Much love to you <3

 

[Krankk]

You're 18 years old. That's nothing. If I had my 18 year old self standing in front of me, I would slap the crap out of that little handsome fuckboy for being a little idiot. My point is, that your life has just started. Let's say -for the sake of the argument- that you'll drop dead, when you're 80 years old. That would mean, that you haven't even lived 1/4 of your life yet.

I personally don't have contact to a single person I knew, when I was 18 years old. And I'm not even mad about it. I also don't have the same profession I had, when I was 22 years old. And I'm sure as hell not even mad about that either. I mean, when I was 18 I didn't even really know what I liked and what I didn't like. I thought I would get happy with a certain profession, which is why I learned it for 3 years. Then I realized that it was nothing for me and I started something new, with which I'm far more happy now.

My advice would be to not think all too negatively about the future. The most important thing is to try your best, whatever you do. If you want to become a nutritionist, then give it a shot. That often goes hand in hand with working out. And I'm 100% sure, that you don't need maths in either one of those areas.
And if that doesn't end up making you happy, try something new - and again, try your best, while doing so. I don't really believe in fate and all that, but I honestly do believe, that everything happens for a reason. That's how I've perceived my life so far. I've made mistakes, but I've also learned from these mistakes. Which you should do as well.

 

[Vslayer]

As a Christian perspective, a lot of people whether they believe or not get really hung up on the idea that we need to figure out this one grand purpose for our lives, but the reality is that's just a word that's been taken out of context and used to con people out of real happiness, just like the word detox has been marketed to people who don't know anything about nutrition. Turns out, our body detox itself daily.

So in the same way, people are trying to find this 'purpose' while life is meant to just be enjoyed. Learn every day to grow, work to better yourself physically and mentally, develop hobbies and especially art in whatever form it takes. Help others, help yourself, love others, love yourself. The problem is when people get into a routine they stop growing and that is the biggest cause of anxiety and depression because you feel like you're stuck on pause and nothing you do makes you advance or matter in the long run.

Life is not always going to be an awesome adventure, but going through rough patches is needed. Sometimes you need to get a good kick in the ass to get moving again and if you use the bad to grow and learn, then you're doing something right. The best thing you can learn in life is that failure isn't bad, it's an opportunity to learn and get better.

Don't isolate yourself, talk to people about your problems and spend time with family. Those are all really important to being happy.

 

[ILuvFightGames]

Intrusive thoughts, ocd, all that is psychological and emotional issues, I'm no therapist but I think you're still very young and hopefully those issues will resolve by themselves. A lot of people have ocd, especially at a young age, you're not alone. No matter what your brain tells you, remember that we tend to always think of the worst scenarios when we have different problems, I'm not sure what you mean about the homosexual stuff but when you're going through stuff the mind makes you think you might want or be something you're not. Just try to stay positive bro, happiness or sadness IS ONLY A STATE OF MIND, today you might be confused about something and sad, but I'm pretty sure soon you will realize that all that was just in your head. I was in a long relationship that ended and had me depressed, not the same case but my mind tried messing with me also, to the point where I thought I was at fault even though it wasn't the case, just letting you know that the mind can fuck with us, but sooner or later we see the light. Take care and stay positive!

 

[Krankk]

I'm not sure what you mean about the homosexual stuff but when you're going through stuff the mind makes you think you might want or be something you're not.

I'm as straight as they come, but Ryan Reynolds and Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson do make me question my sexual orientation. For them I would drop my pants in a heartbeat.

Homosexuality, bisexuality... The OP should realize that things like these are determined in the genetic code. You're born gay and there is nothing wrong with that. It's only wrong, when you deny it to please others and in process you end up causing yourself harm. Just be yourself, brah.

 

[freerf245]

Dude I don't know if a fighting game forum is the place for life advice.

 

[JBeezYBabY]

Dude I don't know if a fighting game forum is the place for life advice.

It clearly isn't but if somebody is calling for help, as a community the least we can do is listen.

 

[portent]

Dude I don't know if a fighting game forum is the place for life advice.

You're entitled to your opinion, but, perhaps from behind a keyboard with people he doesn't know and maybe doesn't care if they judge him, is the most comfortable way for him to address this. A little bit of kindness goes a long way. Maybe kindness starts with not making a comment like that, or not making a comment at all if you feel he's in the wrong place. Just keep an open mind about your actions.

 

[portent]

@Might-Taro 19 Listen, I know at 18 you feel like life is punching you in the face. I hate to seem like the old guy saying "when I was your age", but honestly, life is hard, and when you're not feeling well, things seem bleak.

I'm more than double your age. Of course I've felt like you do now, many times, over the course of my life. Surely there must be SOMETHING that gives you some level of enjoyment? Those are the things you hold onto. Those are the things that keep you in the now, and make you want to stay. Grab onto them and hold tight.

At 18 there are so many things you haven't experienced, and believe me, you're not all that different. You're unique because you're you, and nobody can be you, but your experiences, your interests, your fears, they're all things that everyone older than you (and even younger than you) has experienced and felt (and dealt with) before.

You're not alone in your feelings, someone on here, and in your real life, has felt them before and has dealt with them before. Reaching out was a good step, even if it's on a fighting game forum. Now take the next step and talk to someone for real about it. Look for counseling, etc. Believe me, you're not alone.

 

[Vslayer]

Dude I don't know if a fighting game forum is the place for life advice.

A lot of people have different experiences, training, even if it's a FG forum, it doesn't nullify life experience.

I'm as straight as they come, but Ryan Reynolds and Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson do make me question my sexual orientation. For them I would drop my pants in a heartbeat.

Homosexuality, bisexuality... The OP should realize that things like these are determined in the genetic code. You're born gay and there is nothing wrong with that. It's only wrong, when you deny it to please others and in process you end up causing yourself harm. Just be yourself, brah.

Oh boy, no, sexuality has nothing to do with genetics whatsoever. There is not one single study that could prove this beyond a shadow of a doubt because it's BS. Sexuality is a feeling and mostly a choice, hence bisexuality.

When I studied psych in Uni we covered this stuff quite a bit and the psychology behind this is very interesting, but there is absolutely no biological link to this. No one is born gay that is absurd.

 

[freerf245]

Not saying that there isn't any comfort to be found here. Just trying to say that there ARE better places to address these kind of problems. Like people who are trained to help people who feel lost. Thats what I did last year and I'm the happiest I've been in years. Didn't mean to come off as hostile just being honest.

 

[Vslayer]

Not saying that there isn't any comfort to be found here. Just trying to say that there ARE better places to address these kind of problems. Like people who are trained to help people who feel lost. Thats what I did last year and I'm the happiest I've been in years. Didn't mean to come off as hostile just being honest.

Yeah, no worries at all I get that. Sometimes one on one with someone who's specifically trained for that helps more. I don't have my masters, but I do have my degree in Psych so I can be of some help.

 

[Might-Taro 19]

You wanna know what really bugs me? no one can really help me. I tried Therapy, Counseling, talking to friends about it and honestly nothing really helps. I am stubborn afterall, most advices they gave me just wasn't really helpful. I'm mostly solo in these terrible situations and I've gotta say that i'm freaking strong. If i wasn't strong I would have ended my life so much earlier.. but no i keep on going and yet dealing with all of this mess that me personally do not deserve.

Yeah, no worries at all I get that. Sometimes one on one with someone who's specifically trained for that helps more. I don't have my masters, but I do have my degree in Psych so I can be of some help.

 

[Vslayer]

You wanna know what really bugs me? no one can really help me. I tried Therapy, Counseling, talking to friends about it and honestly nothing really helps. I am stubborn afterall, most advices they gave me just wasn't really helpful. I'm mostly solo in these terrible situations and I've gotta say that i'm freaking strong. If i wasn't strong I would have ended my life so much earlier.. but no i keep on going and yet dealing with all of this mess that me personally do not deserve.

Maybe these therapists can't make you find the root causes of the problems. Because Anxiety, depression, intrusive thoughts, OCD, they're all symptoms of something clashing inside of you - something you're not seeing or acknowledging. You have to figure out WHY you need to control everything, WHAT causes anxiety and HOW you can let go of these things. It takes time, but you have to train yourself to notice patterns of thinking or doing certain things that actually make your condition worse.

For example, I used to have a ton of social anxiety. Why? It stemmed from a fear of being rejected or being labeled as weird, as hyper and as a nerd. What caused this fear? Lies I told myself, imagining what people thought without really knowing what they thought. How did I overcome it? When you realize that labels don't actually mean anything, and neither do people's opinions, then that fear lessens every day and suddenly the anxiety dissolves as well.

It can be a long process, but it's very important if you want to get to the root causes of your issues.

 

[Krankk]

Oh boy, no, sexuality has nothing to do with genetics whatsoever. There is not one single study that could prove this beyond a shadow of a doubt because it's BS. Sexuality is a feeling and mostly a choice, hence bisexuality.
When I studied psych in Uni we covered this stuff quite a bit and the psychology behind this is very interesting, but there is absolutely no biological link to this. No one is born gay that is absurd.

There is scientific evidcence, which highly suggests, that homosexuality is at the very least strongly linked to ones genetics.

I'm not going to adress the rest of your post, because it could get heated fairly quickly. I already started writing some stuff, but deleted all of it, because in end of the day: You can't win an argument on the internet. But as someone, who has studied psychology, you probably already know that - maybe even under the term "backfire effect".

I'm out.

 

[Vslayer]

There is scientific evidcence, which highly suggests, that homosexuality is at the very least strongly linked to ones genetics.

I'm not going to adress the rest of your post, because it could get heated fairly quickly. I already started writing some stuff, but deleted all of it, because in end of the day: You can't win an argument on the internet. But as someone, who has studied psychology, you probably already know that - maybe even under the term "backfire effect".

I'm out.

Well, that's the problem, people can't see anything subjectively anymore, they rely too much on their feelings and just want to argue because feelings and truth will always clash together. But either way, strong links means nothing, correlation doesn't mean causation and there is no concrete evidence that it's true.

 

[Dankster Morgan]

I’m 19 and can relate somewhat to not knowing what to do. I broke up with my girlfriend who I was with for a really long time, for once I’m doing things alone and not chasing honeys, and most of my friends are scattered to various colleges. So for the first time in forever, I feel somewhat alone. However, Iv been finding out some pretty cool things about myself that I wouldn’t have otherwise.

You sound like a pretty smart and articulate guy, you seem to know what your weaknesses are. It’s alright if you suck at math, you can learn it. Don’t just think about the bad shit, you are probably well aware of things you’re good at too. It’s okay to suck at something, but it’s not okay to allow yourself to suck at it forever, and it’s definitely not okay to let yourself suck at something that’s holding you back from what you want. I think it’s pretty normal for guys our age to feel a little lost, our entire lives up to now were our k-12 educations, girls, friends, sports/whatever activity we enjoyed, and memes. Now we have to start being adults instantly while our mental states really haven’t changed yet all that much.

But the fact that you’re smart enough to not only recognize your issues but want to fix them puts you so far ahead of people your/our age. Which I’m sure you realize that lol. I’d say take whatever math classes you need and get started now on furthering your education if you truly do know what you want.

Just take it one day at a time and if you ever need to vent, feel free to PM me because there’s a chance I’m probably having something similar going on. Also add me on PS4, TreeWilly2000 and we can play some MK11 when it comes out.

 

[Obly]

Well, that's the problem, people can't see anything subjectively anymore, they rely too much on their feelings and just want to argue because feelings and truth will always clash together. But either way, strong links means nothing, correlation doesn't mean causation and there is no concrete evidence that it's true.

Howdy, friend... I don't want to derail this thread, but just in case this is relevant to the issues the OP is dealing with, it's worth spending a little time on.

I would argue that your standards for evidence are unrealistic and a little distorted. You have to be mindful of what kind of research is and is not possible. You say you won't accept correlation as evidence, but to obtain true experimental evidence in this area is ethically impossible. In order to "prove" the influence of genetics, you would have to, for example, remove the genetic children of homosexual parents at birth and raise them entirely with heterosexual parents, and vice versa for the genetic children of heterosexual parents, and compare their expressions of sexual orientation over the long-term. Any other experiment in the same vein you could imagine would be similarly impossible. So, to be frank, you're being intellectually dishonest to say this is the only kind of evidence you'll accept (and it suggests you might have a predetermined bias you're defending).

So yes, we do need to be open to accepting correlational data as genuine evidence. One single correlational study can't prove a link, no, but thanks to statistical aggregation tools like meta-analysis, we can combine observed effects across studies. When you see the same correlations in sample after sample, study after study, yes that does constitute concrete evidence; reliability is, after all, the foundation of scientific knowledge.

And on the whole, meta-analyses of gene association studies do support a link with sexual orientation. There is also copious evidence on biomarkers linked to sexual orientation, also generally upheld through meta-analysis: an individual's index-to-ring-finger ratio (which is determined by prenatal hormone exposure); the fraternal birth order effect (men born later in a sib line of brothers, especially close in age, are more likely to be homosexual--again likely linked to the prenatal hormone environment). I encourage you to look these up if you're interested.

We can also consider the inverse of your position. If sexual orientation is a choice as you say, then logically it should be easy enough to make a different choice. If so, so-called "conversion therapies" intended to change homosexuality should be effective and safe, correct? Except that's not the case at all; meta-analysis has conclusively shown that conversion therapies do not work and can cause considerable harm to the patients forced to participate in them. Again, I encourage you to look around and confirm this for yourself.

Anyway, I'm not attacking you. I think you have good intentions here and want to help the OP. But you have to agree, if the OP is working through issues around his sexual orientation right now, he needs to have an accurate picture of things, and I don't feel you were really helping there. That's all.

 

[Vslayer]

Howdy, friend... I don't want to derail this thread, but just in case this is relevant to the issues the OP is dealing with, it's worth spending a little time on.

I would argue that your standards for evidence are unrealistic and a little distorted. You have to be mindful of what kind of research is and is not possible. You say you won't accept correlation as evidence, but to obtain true experimental evidence in this area is ethically impossible. In order to "prove" the influence of genetics, you would have to, for example, remove the genetic children of homosexual parents at birth and raise them entirely with heterosexual parents, and vice versa for the genetic children of heterosexual parents, and compare their expressions of sexual orientation over the long-term. Any other experiment in the same vein you could imagine would be similarly impossible. So, to be frank, you're being intellectually dishonest to say this is the only kind of evidence you'll accept (and it suggests you might have a predetermined bias you're defending).

So yes, we do need to be open to accepting correlational data as genuine evidence. One single correlational study can't prove a link, no, but thanks to statistical aggregation tools like meta-analysis, we can combine observed effects across studies. When you see the same correlations in sample after sample, study after study, yes that does constitute concrete evidence; reliability is, after all, the foundation of scientific knowledge.

And on the whole, meta-analyses of gene association studies do support a link with sexual orientation. There is also copious evidence on biomarkers linked to sexual orientation, also generally upheld through meta-analysis: an individual's index-to-ring-finger ratio (which is determined by prenatal hormone exposure); the fraternal birth order effect (men born later in a sib line of brothers, especially close in age, are more likely to be homosexual--again likely linked to the prenatal hormone environment). I encourage you to look these up if you're interested.

We can also consider the inverse of your position. If sexual orientation is a choice as you say, then logically it should be easy enough to make a different choice. If so, so-called "conversion therapies" intended to change homosexuality should be effective and safe, correct? Except that's not the case at all; meta-analysis has conclusively shown that conversion therapies do not work and can cause considerable harm to the patients forced to participate in them. Again, I encourage you to look around and confirm this for yourself.

Anyway, I'm not attacking you. I think you have good intentions here and want to help the OP. But you have to agree, if the OP is working through issues around his sexual orientation right now, he needs to have an accurate picture of things, and I don't feel you were really helping there. That's all.

It’s the case of nurture vs nature, but we are far more influenced by the world around us than we realize and sometimes, not ALL the time, what we think we are is not true as was the case for me. And that is also a reality people must face when trying to figure out who they are.

Convertion therapies will never work not because it’s biological but because people are forced into it. You can’t force someone to find out who they are it takes time.

If scientists can’t find one specific gene that makes people gay from birth all of that research you mentioned still doesn’t prove it.

 

[GLoRToR]

I understand, most of my threads have been wild but I assure you that this is important and support would be much appreciated.

Alright, I'll sound rough but I mean well.
First off.
Anyone who dislikes you over the internet is not worth your time. Period. It means the person has a very narrow perception and doesn't understand how little you can know of a person even if you meet them day to day. In real life.

Take this the best way possible: Nobody cares. You aren't important enough for people to dislike you. For people to dislike you, you have to go lengths to piss them off consistently for a fair period of time and not just online.

So far my strong interests in life is Video Games, Meditating, Working out, eating nutrient dense whole foods, woman, being out in nature, and nutrition. here's the thing, I am very weak when it comes to math and most of my interests lead in to that required category.

Math is science.
Science is a craft.
Craft requires skill.
Skill is attained through practice and understanding.
This boils down to Hard Work (98%) and talent (2%).
The bottom line: Not being good at something is no incentive not to do it if you want to.
Study math. Take your time.

I am lost in life and 18 years old.

Pretty sure everyone at that age is lost in life at some capacity.
Or rather, very few people aren't. You're a kid who's becoming an adult. Your body's grown and giving off lighthouse signals but your mind is not yet ready for the docking ships of adult life, because frankly, you get ready for that as it hits you coming.
Everyone fails in life. Don't be afraid to fail.
Consider every wrong move you make and every step you trip up a motivator to keep moving on.
Stop and look around yourself and think.

For example if I wanted to be a nutritionist I would need to take some pretty difficult classes. I never really stepped outside of my box with people and even when I do...it makes me look bad and hard to speak up.

You're an introvert personality. Nothing's wrong with that. Experience will also help dealing with people. Here's a big secret about people.

People are too absorbed in what they think and see to notice you most of the time. And when they do notice you, their first impression is what matters. So always be clean and look presentable, be nice and smile at everyone.
All there is to it. So you're shy.
Nobody cares, it is who you are.
Just remember to be presentable and smile.
Let people open up to your kindness.

Me as a person and coming from experience, pretty unique from other people. Over most I have met, they are completely different than myself. For example their beliefs, what video games they like, what they eat, music tastes etc. Let's be real here, most people go with the most popular game called fortnite, call of duty, rap music,fast food, you name it. So that really made me lonely as a person, being very different and basically I hate to say it but... don't really wanna be here anymore.

You're as unique as the next person, you just somehow happened to meet the wrong people who, for some reason, either don't accept you for who you are or just go on about their own things which happens to differ from your preferences.
Rest assured that many people out there share one thing or two in common with you and usually one or two things in common is all it takes for lifelong companionship, be that friendship or a significant other.

People... like things. Usually vastly different things. Learning that, and realising that liking what you like is not wrong, that being different is fine and actually, a vital part of all our existence is a liberating experience.

You already know what you like and you know Peer Pressure as well, yet you walk your own path. These are the marks of a strong heart in the making. Never doubt that you are equal to everyone else. We're all human.

You're fine. Be you.

Life is very tough and finding purpose is probably never going to happen for me.

That's the bane of everyone's existence. Very few people have the sense of commitment to say "I'll be a doctor" or "I'll be a lawyer" and see it through without any doubt. Even the most famous and successful people contend with insecurities.
Worry and doubt are a part of the Human Condition and people without are people who tend to suffer from other, far more crippling mental problems.

I have a bad feeling that i'll end up with a job I dislike, make good money, and have so many issues going on internally.

There's an easy way to live life, and an adventure to take. You pick.
If you listen to me, do what your heart tells you.

DO NOT EVER MAKE A TURN BASED ON FEAR.
Afraid of maths? Hit it. Defeat the beast. Math is something you can learn.
I have a condition called Dyscalculia, you can look it up. Never allowed it to stop me.

Like what? depression, Intrusive thoughts, Negative thoughts, homosexual OCD, and the list goes on. That's a lot to type but yeah I would really love it if you people can help me out, i'm hoping there's people who are like minded and went through the same or similar things and perhaps share what the resolution came out to be.

Kindest regards
Thank you.

Depression is the state in which your desires and your actions do not add up. Ask yourself if you feel depressed, what you would rather be doing than what you are doing right now.
Then break it down to steps which you can take. There are always smaller steps to take and as long as you keep taking the next step, you're getting ahead in life, in your own pace, at your own speed.

Nobody can ever ask more of you than the best you can do.
So do your best.

Intrusive thoughts are the same as fear and doubt. Counter them with FACTS. So you're not great at math and worried. Take up a beginner's math book and do every problem in it, google them, ask for help, learn how to teach yourself. There is freedom to be had in learning how to solve problems.

Sexuality is not something to worry about either. Anyone who judges you for who your heart desires does not deserve to know your heart.

Be you.
Be free.

 

[_xFriction]

I fucking love you guys and this community

 

[Gerchap]

I understand, most of my threads have been wild but I assure you that this is important and support would be much appreciated.

So far my strong interests in life is Video Games, Meditating, Working out, eating nutrient dense whole foods, woman, being out in nature, and nutrition. here's the thing, I am very weak when it comes to math and most of my interests lead in to that required category. I am lost in life and 18 years old. For example if I wanted to be a nutritionist I would need to take some pretty difficult classes. I never really stepped outside of my box with people and even when I do...it makes me look bad and hard to speak up.

Me as a person and coming from experience, pretty unique from other people. Over most I have met, they are completely different than myself. For example their beliefs, what video games they like, what they eat, music tastes etc. Let's be real here, most people go with the most popular game called fortnite, call of duty, rap music,fast food, you name it. So that really made me lonely as a person, being very different and basically I hate to say it but... don't really wanna be here anymore. Life is very tough and finding purpose is probably never going to happen for me. I have a bad feeling that i'll end up with a job I dislike, make good money, and have so many issues going on internally. Like what? depression, Intrusive thoughts, Negative thoughts, homosexual OCD, and the list goes on. That's a lot to type but yeah I would really love it if you people can help me out, i'm hoping there's people who are like minded and went through the same or similar things and perhaps share what the resolution came out to be.

Kindest regards
Thank you.

Someone needs to tell you this:

Life isn’t easy, you’re setting goals but find objections for not reaching them or you don’t even want to try
Example, you mentioned things you want to do but don’t do them because the clases are too hard or that you think that math is hard

Everything in life is SO HARD no body is gonna hand you a good job or hand you easy money, most of us here have full time jobs, family, hobbies and we find the time to do them. It seems to me that you just don’t want to try and and that attitude won’t take you anywhere.

Be strong and most important change that attitude and just a tip: to become a personal trainer you don’t need much math, simple math would get you there

Change your attitude and you will change your life

 

[Obly]

It’s the case of nurture vs nature, but we are far more influenced by the world around us than we realize and sometimes, not ALL the time, what we think we are is not true as was the case for me. And that is also a reality people must face when trying to figure out who they are.

Convertion therapies will never work not because it’s biological but because people are forced into it. You can’t force someone to find out who they are it takes time.

If scientists can’t find one specific gene that makes people gay from birth all of that research you mentioned still doesn’t prove it.

"Nature vs. nurture" is an old myth; every complex behavior is influenced by both biology and environment. Genes just setup our predilections, but of course our life experiences (both pre- and post-natal) determine how they are expressed. Epigenetic research shows that experiences can cause some genes to activate or deactivate, so it's a constant ongoing two-way interaction. So if you're somehow trying to argue that there's no genetic component to sexual orientation simply because there is an environment component, that's deeply flawed reasoning.

You should know, your argument sounds the same as an "intelligent design" believer or climate change denier--folks with such a strongly biased cultural and political worldview that they will fight against any piece of evidence in order to protect it. No matter the facts, they try to twist them, distort them, explain them away, and always conclude "Nobody really knows [so I can keep believing what I prefer to believe]."

Whatever beliefs you hold that help you personally, I respect them and have no problem with that. Just don't distort the facts for others, especially someone in distress who's trying to figure out the world for themselves.

 

[TackyHaddock]

Live in the present moment, don’t think about the past or future too much!