The biggest thing you can do to join this community, is go a single offline major. Walk up and introduce yourself to everyone, and play casuals. 80% of life is just showing up. The first offline (out of my homewotwn) event I went to I met arma, decay, kdz, cossner and a bunch of other ny/nj guys. They showed me around a Big E event a month later and now I just walk up to anyone and ask for casuals without fear. I've played all of the aforementioned more than once, PL, and a bunch of gga guys just because i walked up and said "hey wanna play?" and almost everyone says yes, without hesitation. I SUCK at these games, but you learn a lot and will be surprised how quickly you level up in a weekend. But you have to find a way in, and online only thats harder.