DanableLector
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Hey guys. This is a heavy topic, and I typically wouldn't turn to strangers on the Internet for advice on things like this, but I don't know anyone that could relate.
I've been in a committed relationship for 4 years, and have noticed her drinking steadily increase over the last two years. Anymore, she drinks a good six days a week. Mostly because there will be one day or so where she's too hung over to be able to. A typical amount for her to drink in an evening is a small bottle of wine (Chardonnay, because the alcohol content is higher) and 3 or 4 minis (Yukon jack. Cinnamon apple flavored whiskey).. Sometimes she'll drink more, and sometimes less.
It's really beginning to effect our relationship. She's not energetic, her sex drive is really down, and her health is deteriorating. I Feel so horrible, because I've been too blind to see this whole time I've been enabling her. I'd sometimes go get her more because she'd say she was hurting or whatever and I sure as hell didn't want her driving.
For the past year I've tried different methods of bringing it up. Whether I come on strong, soft, or even passive she always is immediately defensive. She's only kind of agreed to have a problem with alcohol.. Not yet really a full on confession. i have bigger problems than just her denial though. She actually works at a damn liquor store!
What can I do! How can I get her to see what she's doing, and slow down? Or quit her job? This is spiraling out of control so fast now, and I have to do something soon before the problem gets worse. Anyone have any words of wisdom? I love this girl and I'm even getting pushed to pop the question.. But I cant marry her in the midst of all of this.
I've been in a committed relationship for 4 years, and have noticed her drinking steadily increase over the last two years. Anymore, she drinks a good six days a week. Mostly because there will be one day or so where she's too hung over to be able to. A typical amount for her to drink in an evening is a small bottle of wine (Chardonnay, because the alcohol content is higher) and 3 or 4 minis (Yukon jack. Cinnamon apple flavored whiskey).. Sometimes she'll drink more, and sometimes less.
It's really beginning to effect our relationship. She's not energetic, her sex drive is really down, and her health is deteriorating. I Feel so horrible, because I've been too blind to see this whole time I've been enabling her. I'd sometimes go get her more because she'd say she was hurting or whatever and I sure as hell didn't want her driving.
For the past year I've tried different methods of bringing it up. Whether I come on strong, soft, or even passive she always is immediately defensive. She's only kind of agreed to have a problem with alcohol.. Not yet really a full on confession. i have bigger problems than just her denial though. She actually works at a damn liquor store!
What can I do! How can I get her to see what she's doing, and slow down? Or quit her job? This is spiraling out of control so fast now, and I have to do something soon before the problem gets worse. Anyone have any words of wisdom? I love this girl and I'm even getting pushed to pop the question.. But I cant marry her in the midst of all of this.