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BrianTheBEAST

BrianTheBEAST

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Look guys I think I'm giving you the wrong impression of myself. Socially, I'm very loved and I'm not saying this to boost my ego or look cool in front of you guys. Some may characterize me as a "player" really. How I view myself. I am confident. I am kind. I am good-looking. I have no problems with my life socially. It's just that 1 out of 30 guys who does turn out to be racist that I have a problem with. I just dont know what to do if I'm ever again in that situation.
 
BrianTheBEAST

BrianTheBEAST

Banned
Peckapowa said:
Yeah man young kids, and even adults have a tough time being comfortable in their own skin... and that's why high school can be kind of messed up... because kids actually don't have a lot of self-esteem so they are always using other kids to elevate their own. If you can be a person who establishes himself and is confident but doesn't walk on others then you'll over all be better than a lot of other kids and girls might see it. I'll be honest i've looked back on situations with regret, there was one kind who i wasn't all that afraid of but i didn't want to get kicked out of private high shcool so i just ignored him... in reality with my maturity level now i would have been able to rip him to shreds non-violently. I would honestly practice these scenarios out in my head if i were you. But make it so it doesn't really get to you because you'll be overall stronger because of it... if people get to you easily then it's kind of a sign of weakness.
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I agree with you one hundered percent here peckapowa. I don't want to live my life with "what if" moments. This is why I'm presenting my problem on TYM
 
ZigZag

ZigZag

That Welsh Guy
You don't have to kick the guys ass, i'm sure you want to but that's not always a cool move and I dunno you might already see him as someone who could kick your ass, sometimes that's just fact.
But you can show him up and tell him straight up that you're not cool with him and that if he enjoys being racist then he can go to hell (you know something along these lines) Just tell him it's not cool and even if he thinks he's joking he's actually being pathetic and really racist.
Just walk off with that said, he'll feel like a dick and hopefully bad enough to regret his actions, the girls should see what a dick he's been and walk off too but if none of them care then you don't need to be with any of them.

Alternatively you can just actually kick his ass if you think you can.
 
STB Shujinkydink

STB Shujinkydink

Burning down in flames for kicks
SonicBoomBrad said:
Nobody on this website would do anything other than a very select few. (Pig, Noobe, Reno)
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I don't think you know everyone on this site ;)

Just call him on being racist. Say something like "woah man, that's really racist". That would put him on the spot to either backtrack, or say "it's just a joke man". In which case you can tell him it's not funny to be racist. Your lady friends would be impressed by such a powerful move and he'll basically have to admit he's being a douche
 
Shaazzyam

Shaazzyam

undefeated online evo champion
Kid prob thinks he's hot shit and his "jokes" at your expense are less "I hate Asians" and prob more his desperate way of trying to impress girls. Even if you're still high-school, it's childish shit that gets tired pretty quick for everybody.

If you think you'll never see this guy around again, don't get too hung up on the situation. Guy's a tool. But if you do run into him again, try not to just stand there like a plant. Make it clear that shit isn't cool with you. Call him out on it, or if you don't like confrontation play it off with a joke, or just flash your piece while throwing up crip signs. Whatever, breh. That last one works for most problems in my experience.
 
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BrianTheBEAST

BrianTheBEAST

Banned
ZigZag said:
You don't have to kick the guys ass, i'm sure you want to but that's not always a cool move and I dunno you might already see him as someone who could kick your ass, sometimes that's just fact.
But you can show him up and tell him straight up that you're not cool with him and that if he enjoys being racist then he can go to hell (you know something along these lines) Just tell him it's not cool and even if he thinks he's joking he's actually being pathetic and really racist.
Just walk off with that said, he'll feel like a dick and hopefully bad enough to regret his actions, the girls should see what a dick he's been and walk off too but if none of them care then you don't need to be with any of them.

Alternatively you can just actually kick his ass if you think you can.
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Yeah that guy was actually a junior and yeah I admit he could kick my ass. And yes I probably should've done that
 
NoobHunter420

NoobHunter420

Scrub God Lord
that's barely racist, I do think of Asians as smart people but that has to do with their culture than anything else.
I wish I was half as good in math as my asian friends.
When moved to the USA I got called beaner a lot, even broke a few noses over it.
Now that I look back I regret it, they just wanted attention.
I ended up embracing "beaner" after all I do like beans in my burritos l0l
 
CrimsonShadow

CrimsonShadow

Administrator and Community Engineer
Administrator
BrianTheBEAST said:
Look I'm here to seek genuine advice on this topic. I'm a freshman in highschool and today I was trick-or-treating with my friends. The girls that I was hanging out with saw this football player guy that they knew and started talking to him. He's one of those guys that says the rudest things, yet still gets the attention of girls. So while he's talking about, "which girl wants to suck my dick" and other stuff like that I'm just standing there waiting for the girls to leave with me. They don't. After a while, he starts picking on my ethnicity (Asian). The way he said it was like, "Hey are you good at math??" and pull his eyes. And just as I get mad, he would hug me and be like, "yeah we're friends" and other stuff like that. So my question is, "What would you do in this situation?"
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Honestly that's so mild and so lame, that I'd just ignore it completely and keep it moving. It's not even vaguely confrontational, just silly. So I'd just tell him "You're silly, good day" and roll on.
 
RunwayMafia

RunwayMafia

Shoot them. Shoot them all.
Wow. First off, fuck him. He sounds like a future felon with a pot belly and a terribly receded hair line.

Secondly, you don't want to be associated with any girl(s) that would willingly go with a guy that says OUT LOUD "who's gonna suck my dick?". Ugh, I cringe.

Thirdly, don't let it get to you. Just know that the world can be ugly and those types of people do walk amongst us.

How confident are you? If you experience this again maybe you should just confront the person and call them out. You know, stand up for yourself? ;)

Then again, I'm 6'2, 195 and would have challenged him physically, lol. Sorry that happened to you bud.
 
ZigZag

ZigZag

That Welsh Guy
BrianTheBEAST said:
Yeah that guy was actually a junior and yeah I admit he could kick my ass. And yes I probably should've done that
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It's okay sometimes you look at guys and they're ass hats but even though you want to knock them the fuck out you kinda gotta think that sometimes you can't win all fights and end up looking worse and getting a beating.
However I think if you made him out to be the racist douche he seemed to be in front of the girls it was the best way, I mean the stereotype is there and it's made fun of, but ehhh it's just not something you do to someone's face and try to act like you're friends.

It's happened before to me someone will rip on you to show off and make you feel shit then act like you're all cool.
 
Wemfs

Wemfs

The only morality in a cruel world is chance.
There are a lot of things you could've done, but the bottom line (imo) is you should've let the guy know that shit won't fly with you. Because once you start letting the little things fly, he'll continue to drop rude, disrespectful remarks in the future. You have to draw the line in the sand. If it gets violent, then shall be it, at least he'll know one way or the other you won't stand for that shit.
 
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