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Wemfs

The only morality in a cruel world is chance.
I didn't read the whole thread but....

Take him aside and tell him,

"Hey I'm proud of being Asian and when you joke on me it bugs me. I know your kidding but do you mind laying off a bit?"

If he keeps doing it then you can get mad. But you shouldn't get mad till you tell him how you feel. But he won't respect that then fuck him.
And what should he do if he won't stop and continues? Do you continue to ignore his disrespectful comments every time you encounter him? Say you run in to this guy a lot through your friends and he says the same shit every single time.
 
And what should he do if he won't stop and continues? Do you continue to ignore his disrespectful comments every time you encounter him? Say you run in to this guy a lot through your friends and he says the same shit every single time.
Now going back on what I just said, I told @BrianTheBEAST to ignore that man, buuuut if he keeps on wit that shit like @MITDJT said, he's gonna have to check that nigga, and let him know he tired of that shit, and if a fight insues fuck it, at least he will know he ain't no punk about it...real friends don't constantly talk shit about each other to look good infront of other ppl.
 

Pterodactyl

Plus on block.
I didn't read the whole thread but....

Take him aside and tell him,

"Hey I'm proud of being Asian and when you joke on me it bugs me. I know your kidding but do you mind laying off a bit?"


No offense but there's no way that'll work.

Jumping through hoops trying to reason with idiots is not worth the trouble.
 
I didn't read the whole thread but....

Take him aside and tell him,

"Hey I'm proud of being Asian and when you joke on me it bugs me. I know your kidding but do you mind laying off a bit?"

If he keeps doing it then you can get mad. But you shouldn't get mad till you tell him how you feel. But he won't respect that then fuck him.
Thank you for the imput on this, but I really, I don't think that would work on a guy like him
 
So here I pose another example. What if I do stand up for myself and talk back to him but he just keeps laughing at me? What do I do then?
 

AK L0rdoftheFLY

I hatelove this game
Thank you for the imput on this, but I really, I don't think that would work on a guy like him
Maturity has something to play here. He may not be ready to hear it or you may not want to handle it like this.

I believe in taking the nice road first that way when shit does blow up, you can say you did everything you could to be civil.

It's not a matter of "will it work" it's a matter of making sure you have your back covered.

If your not willing to do the simplest thing first then your of course going to continue to have issues.
 

Kzaoo

Noob
Well, if you don't want to sit down and take it, silence is not an option. In the long term, anyway.

Thing is, though, you don't need to speak to be heard. I personally, would completely ignore him. Not just what he says, but his existence completely. If he tried to talk to me, even if he was not trying to be edgy, I would pretend I never heard him. I would not even look into his eyes. That would quickly set the idea that I am, in fact, not cool with him at all.

If things carry on, I'd probably advance to dirty looks. Those sorts of looks you give when you're looking down on people. Like, they're not even worth the shit you stepped in in the morning.

If he's really that persistent, then go on to belittling him. Like, if he asks if you're good at maths, say something like "Yeah, it's useful. Look into it, it's pretty essential in minimum wage jobs" or something like "Why, do you need help?"

I would generally try to piss him off subtly. Though, I am a rather passive person (But I am capable of fighting). I've done it before to people, though, not on the account of racism. Just to people who have given me shit. I am a very petty person, and if it gets to the point where somebody is trying to bully me, I will try to turn it around and bully them. It's childish, I know, but I don't care.

Or if it's just one instance, like if he tries to hug you in a bid to look cool, I'd personally say something like "Wow, you're a cunt."

Succinct and gets the message across. Though, it can get people angry enough to attack you, but oh well, that's just an excuse to punch him.
 

dribirut

BLAK FELOW
best thing you can do is say something like "yea and i have to help your dumb jock ass all the time, pray that you get that football scholarship" and then laugh give him a hug and say hes your friend.. dont get mad
 

MsMiharo

Kuff Bano
You tell him that racist shit ain't cool and tell him to fuck off. Then you ragequit out of there and never speak to him again unless he apologizes.
 

Saboteur-6

Filthy Casual
I always confronted bullies head on man. They talk shit, you call them on it and tell them to cut it the fuck out. They don't, you headbutt them in the fuckin face. Bullies don't respect a lot but they will respect an ass whooping.
 

Kzaoo

Noob
No, they don't. Everyone has the same advantages because everyone is the same.
Can you honestly tell me that everyone is the same? I'm not talking about races being different, I'm talking about individuals. We are not the same. We deserve to the same rights, but if you can't acknowledge the differences between people, you can't understand them. And by not understanding people, a cycle of ignorance is perpetuated as we deny what we see and feel. Are we going to hold somebody in a wheelchair to the same standards as a fully healthy person in a race?

I know I'm being pedantic, but that statement is completely asinine.
 

CrimsonShadow

Administrator and Community Engineer
Administrator
I didn't read the whole thread but....

Take him aside and tell him,

"Hey I'm proud of being Asian and when you joke on me it bugs me. I know your kidding but do you mind laying off a bit?"

If he keeps doing it then you can get mad. But you shouldn't get mad till you tell him how you feel. But he won't respect that then fuck him.
That only works with rational people -- which this guy didn't seem to be. Likely saying this to somebody in that mental/social state, who thinks he is funny, will just get you made fun of more. I'd definitely prefer to take the direct approach (and then ignore him) than the Mr. Rogers approach here :)
 

Goldi

Noob
It's not worth it to hit a classmate. You may have to deal with this douche for 4 more years. And if memory serves (been awhile lol) high school students are pretty dramatic people. You could be labeled "that crazy dude that fucking hits people " instead of laid back and good at math. As rough as it feels, taking the high road is usually the best route.

There was recently a shooting in a school near me. A popular student was the target of racist bullying (rumor has it he was also shot down for a date by a female classmate) and just... Snapped.
http://www.nbcnews.com/storyline/marysville-school-shooting/third-marysville-high-school-shooting-victim-dies-n238911

It's terrifying. So anyone saying shrug it off, it's no big deal, please stop. It's a very big deal, especially to any parent in Washington.... I don't know how to stop bullying and neither does anybody or we wouldn't have so many tragedies in the world.

Hitting bullies doesn't work, ignoring them doesn't always work, and telling victims to suck it up and shrug it off only makes it worse. What we can do, if you find this mess as horrifying as I do, is try to be there for people when others hurt them. Sometimes that's just listening, being a support network and not playing "Mr. Fix-it, here's the solution to a complex social injustice" all the time.... Which we have a lot of on TYM lol

OP I survived HS a million years ago, and you will too! Feel free to pm me anytime if you want talk. :)
 
It's not worth it to hit a classmate. You may have to deal with this douche for 4 more years. And if memory serves (been awhile lol) high school students are pretty dramatic people. You could be labeled "that crazy dude that fucking hits people " instead of laid back and good at math. As rough as it feels, taking the high road is usually the best route.

There was recently a shooting in a school near me. A popular student was the target of racist bullying (rumor has it he was also shot down for a date by a female classmate) and just... Snapped.
http://www.nbcnews.com/storyline/marysville-school-shooting/third-marysville-high-school-shooting-victim-dies-n238911

It's terrifying. So anyone saying shrug it off, it's no big deal, please stop. It's a very big deal, especially to any parent in Washington.... I don't know how to stop bullying and neither does anybody or we wouldn't have so many tragedies in the world.

Hitting bullies doesn't work, ignoring them doesn't always work, and telling victims to suck it up and shrug it off only makes it worse. What we can do, if you find this mess as horrifying as I do, is try to be there for people when others hurt them. Sometimes that's just listening, being a support network and not playing "Mr. Fix-it, here's the solution to a complex social injustice" all the time.... Which we have a lot of on TYM lol

OP I survived HS a million years ago, and you will too! Feel free to pm me anytime if you want talk. :)
Thanks for the support and perspective Goldy. It's hard to be nice to a person you hate, but I guess in some cases it could work. This guy, on the other hand, was a one time thing so I couldn't have done that.
 

Prinz

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Look I'm here to seek genuine advice on this topic. I'm a freshman in highschool and today I was trick-or-treating with my friends. The girls that I was hanging out with saw this football player guy that they knew and started talking to him. He's one of those guys that says the rudest things, yet still gets the attention of girls. So while he's talking about, "which girl wants to suck my dick" and other stuff like that I'm just standing there waiting for the girls to leave with me. They don't. After a while, he starts picking on my ethnicity (Asian). The way he said it was like, "Hey are you good at math??" and pull his eyes. And just as I get mad, he would hug me and be like, "yeah we're friends" and other stuff like that. So my question is, "What would you do in this situation?"
Talking to girls which one wants to suck his dick? That's tight.
-Hey are you good at math?
-Yeah, I can help you if you have a hard time with it (even if you're not or don't want to).
 
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TotteryManx

cr. HP Master
Someone actually pulled their skin back to do the eye thing? I have never seen that irl. It kind of sounds like you need to surround yourself with better people. Why are you hanging out with girls that will go for the, "suck my dick" line? That is complete trash and you should surround yourself with girls that are better than that. If he does it again just be like, "holy shit man, that's racist." If he continues and it drives you nuts, physical contact may be the only thing he can react to, but I would stay away from him altogether honestly.
 

CURBOLICOUS

Cage ban wagon?
Look I'm here to seek genuine advice on this topic. I'm a freshman in highschool and today I was trick-or-treating with my friends. The girls that I was hanging out with saw this football player guy that they knew and started talking to him. He's one of those guys that says the rudest things, yet still gets the attention of girls. So while he's talking about, "which girl wants to suck my dick" and other stuff like that I'm just standing there waiting for the girls to leave with me. They don't. After a while, he starts picking on my ethnicity (Asian). The way he said it was like, "Hey are you good at math??" and pull his eyes. And just as I get mad, he would hug me and be like, "yeah we're friends" and other stuff like that. So my question is, "What would you do in this situation?"
You should just roast him to no end for the way he acts. This dude sounds obnoxious so hes prolly super emotional and is easy make him salty. So be prepared to throw hands once you start roasting him because once you start getting him pissed cause you're exposing him he'll want to fight. Its inevitable and is usually the final destination that all roasts come to.

Also dont show him you're getting mad. Its almost like trolling him IRL. If you show you're mad then you lose the roasting war.

Edit: dont ever back down either and dont be afraid. You should have give him the "back da faq up niggeh" when he tried to hug you after making that racist comment.